Maybe not. Is he trying to drive you off? If anyone could possibly put themselves in our shoes for once (I am forever thinking of how this looks to everyone else), then you will see how frankly terrifying that is. There was only one who has that claim to fame…& His Name is Jesus Christ. He is trying to take you over. in his eyes though, i think we are, which i think is just weird. If I loved someone with my heart and soul I would never dream of choosing my Spirituality over them. Read this amazing book and discover her new dialoguing technique, which enables you to reconnect and turn grief into peace and joy. I wonder if he is putting these demands on you all of a sudden as a way of driving you off. That’s what I wanted to imply. If that happens to your partner, and you’re non-religious yourself, I’d say you’re better off separating, as your lifestyles are so different at this point, there’s no way for you to work things out as a couple. I got a lot of the middle class american dream, and it was really a nightmare married to women that also lusted for money and the stuff that the american dream. I think it's important to understand other religions and respect other peoples beliefs but I'd never change my religion for someone and there's no one out there that would make me want to change my religion. Though I truly think two people need to be on the same page about religion, and well, most things when it comes to being in a relationship. I wrote an article for Yahoo called “Setting the Bar Too High,” which focuses on the deal-breakers we impose on relationships. People want what they want. Having this this, it is not going change the fact that he is the father of your child to be, in Shaa Allah. Your man very honestly expressed to you what he feels he wants and must do in the future, so THANK GD (Jesus or whomever) that you know now, and not when you are married, with two kids and living in a one bedroom apartment because he donated 60% of his money to charity when the rent was not paid and the kids need shoes. We were on again off again for a while.
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It’s a free country. Before when we talked he always said he would follow me wherever I went now he says he wants me to stay in AZ with him until he finishes college. You can start with loving people where they are, as they are, without threatening, browbeating, shaming, or judging them. I’m very much at peace with it all. My faith makes me who I am. I feel the same way about your comment.
I understand your faith is important and that is wonderful, but looking down on someone for walking a different, yet equally good path is unfair. Although she was a little confused about what that meant I thought we had an understanding and that she put that understanding at the same level I did. Born and raised Atheist, converted to Christianity in college, went through several different denominations over twenty years, finally left church last year after a lot of deliberation and research. Just don’t be surprised when the more rules you have for your partner, the harder it is to find a partner. This relationship isn't a collaboration between two equal partners. Ghandi once observed, “I like your Christ. Christians divorce at a higher rate than atheists, Should I Keep Dating Him Even Though Religion Might Tear Us Apart? What To Do If You Want To Find Love. However, I’ve retained a lot of what is referred to as “Catholic social teaching” and it means more than “tithing”. Why must we chose? I know not everyone will understand my point and i do not mean to tackle more about this as many might war me on this. I’m now starting to get back to my god to understand how and why all this turned out the way it did. Then, later coming to a point where their Christian beliefs strengthen, which causes them to rethink that agreement. You’re right about the yoking up part. If fear isn't driving his demands, then we are dealing with a man who thinks he can take you over. Who’s to say yours is the right one. and I said you knew my religious status from day one, why is it now you're telling me this? EQUAL people. If they respect you and ask for the same back would it not be easy for the believer to get his or her way with the subject of kids because I sure wont have a problem with my kids to be Christ-like or guided by any other religion and i am a believer of God just not so good with religions because of the blindly believers that will look down on you for questioning or just not believing everything just because you have too, who are you to say who goes to Heaven I thought only he would be on the day of your judgement. 3 yr relationship ended because he wanted to be Muslim. When I mentioned to her that by dying to herself (sin) to live through Him, and thus have a better life, she said I was talking in Riddles. I didn’t know the rules, I do now, but he did. What a crock of self-righteous, loveless drivel. It has worked for us for almost 10 years. You can try talking with your actions instead of your mouth (it works better that way), or your t-shirt that claims “God said it, I believe it, that settles it”, and all the other slogans you substitute for both critical thinking skills and (more importantly) love, caring understanding and empathy for your fellow human beings. It is about love, not about rules. Now just very recently he came to me with some problems; I want to go to a fashion design school in LA. May be if you read the case ,you could find your error. But my past is a huge part of me, and even if some of the people from my past are imperfect, that's OK. This lady I’m seeing is catholic and believe I’m a good man whatever my religion. Sometimes, I’ll let my secular biases out, and she always forgives me. . Okay, so I'm an Atheist and my boyfriend is a Christian. Their faith is generic and they are reluctant to follow their faith with real commitment, which is why is easier for them to have that type of relationship. God sacrificed His best, His only Son for us, would we not stop and think before entering into a relationship that could cause us grief or harm later. if religion is so important for me i put the red line before of build some realtionship else only is play with this person. She became more insecure, regardless of the many ways I tried to reassure her through actions and words. “This is the most beautiful true love story that I have ever read. Yeah study the Bible. Try to learn something about your partner's faith or lack of. He will expect you to roll over. The best part about you is the way you translate complex psychological stuff into easy to understand and actionable insights. So you think lying (repeatedly) about marriage when he has been aware of his girlfriend’s wiews all along is not leading her on? i always correct him – were not married, dad. My boyfriend wants me to change religions before we get married, what should I do? The only “god” I see there is your institutional “god” of wrath, vengeance and retribution….and of guilt, shame, and degradation of the human spirit, in the name of institutional control of the “sheep” I suppose people who need fear to keep them from behaving badly, project that same need onto everyone else.
Wow, that line was intense! Your fan. “I found the book very helpful in guiding people to learn how to tune into spirit messages, and particularly liked Dr. Turndorf's guidance through meditations. he believes on God but he doesn’t believe much on the Bible coz for him, it’s more of stories. Okay, so this is nto the same as the religion thing, but we are on the same page and both made it very clear to each other what we expect so as not to have many suprises about our feelings in the years to come….and of course things and circumstances change. Send me a copy of the 8 Massive Mistakes Report." I'm imperfect. This man is slowly trying to take you over. It was comfortable and safe and felt right. There are many Christians who go to church on sundays but really don’t have an understanding of what the messge of Jesus Christ was all about. I have a feeling grandparents can (but not always) add pressure here. I can lead others toward faith, but if one experiences a true conversion to faith, that is not up to me. You don't have to tell him directly; he can read your unconscious and your willingness to wipe yourself out for the man you love. She then asked “what does that mean.” When I said that its meant that I believed we would be together, nothing had changed. My first boyfriend was from Lebanon and his parents didn't approve of me dating him. For me, though, the reason to read this book is the author's wisdom in teaching her readers how to heal rifts across the death boundary. It’s entirely up to you what you do after hearing it. However I seem to attract Jewish guys and my most significant relationships have been with Jewish men. He must’ve really had a change of heart and I realize that that can happen, but I feel led on and a bit hurt and angry. I just love the punchline. I don’t take her to synagogue, she doesn’t take me to church. From the very beginning of our relationship we talked about putting Jesus at the center. Readers will get a lot out of this book and know that their loved ones are always connected.”, “I could not put this book down!!! Yes, I know it's weird.) I got there, and that is when I saw that money didn’t fix it, you need a spiritual life that is plentiful. So many people call themselves Christians but think that going to Church on Sunday is all the requirement of having a relationship with Jesus. I wasn’t really raised religious and don’t have any religious feelings for the most part. You are inexperienced in love it seems, otherwise you would know why it is important to keep your word. Isn’t he Christ’s vicar to you? You have a religion and have never felt the need to change it, so who is he kidding? I have courage in my convictions but that doesn’t mean I believe myself to be better than anyone else. I’m pretty sure on that point because if that isn’t true, you have a serious problem with memory, comprehension, or both, and those are usually individual issues, not the kind of mass epidemic one sees here. More and more people should be taking advantage of what you're offering. I do not expect everyone to believe that to be true but it is the foundation of Christian belief. Dates them and then says oh I can’t continue dating you because you aren’t a Born Again Christian. I’m a big believer in searching for answers, but only where answers can be had. Thanks for everyone’s feedback and thanks, Evan, for your’s too. What would have happened if that guy had rejected her for not being one of Jacob’s daughters? Listen To This. Dating a non-Catholic (or non-Christian, even) taught this man how important his faith was to him. Best of luck.
Just an idea here; if you were Catholic, I am surprised you would assume he is lying. He told me what are we going to teach our kids? I think it’s aI can understand why you might feel that someone is looking down on you if they leave a relationship with someone who does not share his/her faith but I would be careful about making that a knee-jerk reaction. It's only been 106 days, Evan, but they have been the BEST 106 days of my life! Exactly. Whenever I talk to people who are in “mixed” relationships I find that neither of them is particularly serious about their walk with God and treat “religion” is more about rituals and traditions. In our love seminar, I asked the question: Is it alright to have a non-Christian (spiritual) partner? Your ability to communicate does give you an advantage over some people. If following your religion blindly makes you feel whole and happy then that is absolutely wonderful for you, but don’t dare judge someone else for believing in a way that feels right for them. You give great labels and patterns to look for. It is obvious that objects mean far more to you than the spirit of Christ and you are driving people away from Him instead of drawing them closer – including yourself. A set of values that you subscribe to. When I opened up to that relationship and began the daily practice of reading the Bible, Devotionals, prayer, giving thanks, meditating on His word, my life and my heart changed. I think thats part of a good relationship, embracing each other’s differences and learning about them without wanting to change each other. I understand what the guy is saying because being altruistic is very important to me. You can't just pick the parts of me … That is why I wanted the same for my beloved. Glad to hear you’ve moved on and are at peace. ", "Good stuff. For me, it is important that my future husband not only knows Jesus, but he actually has a real relationship with him. I wish he would change his mind or come back. Needless to say since one of my dreams in a man to have someone who unlike my ex, enjoys church activities and worship and who will also be a spiritual leader of my household, his declarations are clearly a deal breaker. ", -- Dr. Robert S. Pepper,author Emotional Incest in Group Psychotherapy, "In her book, Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased, Turndorf teaches a method for dialoguing with the departed which holds tremendous healing potential for everyone who has lost a loved one. This has nothing to do with anything here except I smiled at comment #4. There are many dimensions to a relationship. If he isn't willing to collaborate with you regarding a plan that makes room for your educational needs; and if he can't respect your wish to remain Catholic and find a creative way of raising your children with both religions, you would be wise to do some couples therapy. He doesn’t know deep down what he wants and is trusting God to lead him and wants that for me too. Another thing is ask him to get you a copy of the koran and also books on islam (like book on tawhid, what do muslims beleive, the pillars of islam and articles of faith, the life history and characters of prophet muhammad SAW, the character of a true muslim, etc) so that you can do some research on the the religion at your own pace. Think of Moses and his wife! It isn't healthy to think this way and he isn't going to get that he can't demand anything from you until you have shifted your position. I do agree with the others that to say everyone else but you is going to hell is totally foreign to me. Religion may not make it into the top five topics that couples fight about (that’d be money — which you can read about here, sex, work, parenting and housework, if you’re curious), but that doesn’t mean that religion doesn’t cause its fair share of conflicts–especially when both spouses have differing religious beliefs..