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“What’s In Her Heart?”

December 30th, 2017

This 2003 poem about anxiety regarding a love interest shows my ambivalent feelings, fear, and lust:

Amy represents to me solace and intrigue.
I return again and again for more of her light.
Bent on success, I ought not to stop now,
But winning her heart is daily an emotional fight.

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“The Rose”

the rose December 15th, 2017

This poem, “The Rose,” is a way to look at an experience I had where I was into a woman and she was fairly self-protective. Consider the stanza:

She opens up, but not too much;
We see each other, but not too soon;
She tells me secrets, but not too many;
I can have the sun, but not the moon.

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The Consolation of Reliable, Positive Values

positive values November 30th, 2017

Sigh. I entitled this blog what I did because I am having a difficult time of it at the moment. My dad did die this year. And Trump did ascend to power this year. But $hit has really been hitting the fan, as they say. Today, Matt Lauer and Garrison Keillor have been caught in the thorny bramble of bad behavior. I was also a bit shocked by Louis C. K., Senator Al Franken, and Representative John Conyers. I look around and institutions seem to be tarnishing, crumbling, under attack, and failing. It feels like we are more divided and that there are more dangers than I am comfortable with. In this blog, I will try to make sense of my angst, and use reliable, positive values as a consolation. 

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‘Love’, by Samuel Taylor Coleridge

love November 25th, 2017

  Love, by Samuel Taylor Coleridge (1772-1834)   All thoughts, all passions, all delights, Whatever stirs this mortal frame, All are but ministers of Love, And feed his sacred flame.   Oft in my waking dreams do I Live o’er again that happy hour, When midway on the mount I lay, Beside the ruin’d tower.  

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Caring, Empathy, Love, Moral Development (V&E-5)

moral development October 10th, 2017

The following is an excerpt from the book Values & Ethics: From Living Room to Boardroom, taken from the name of an Internet-based talk radio show I did in times-past. The topic from chapter five is “Relationships and Social Policy That Foster Moral Development and Caring.” My two impressive partners in dialogue are psychotherapist and author Marianne Preger-Simon, Ed.D. and noted philosopher and professor, Nel Noddings, Ph.D. Concepts we try to elucidate in our engaging conversation include moral development, care, caring, love, maturation, socio-emotional development, nurturance, empathy, morality, character, and responsibility.

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“A Towering Mountain My Heart Must Climb”

a towering mountain September 20th, 2017

In this poem, I liken the feelings I had for a love interest as “a towering mountian” that, despite emotional and physical distance, that “my heart must climb.” Here is a glimpse:

What a proverbial fool I could end up!
If our friendship is cast interminably in stone.
Perhaps love’s seedling will not find soil,
But rather lay in the dry desert sand all alone.

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“Anti-Love”

September 4th, 2017

This poem depicts my feelings upon learning that a very good friend of mine’s father was molesting my friend’s sister (his daughter) for years.

Through tears I try to write about an atrocity of enormous proportions.
My whole world was changed; my boundaries of reality were torn apart.
With shock and indignant anger my soul must accept the reality as is: 
My best friend’s father is the antithesis of goodness deep in his heart.

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“Rarities”

August 24th, 2017

The qualities and aspirations and virtues of wise and developed individuals are rarities, indeed. Here is a glimpse:

Sharp like the metaphoric steel blade
Possessing uncommon passion and zeal
Power to act on behalf of right
Courage to feel what’s authentic and real.

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Philosophical Thinker: Jason Merchey Quotes

Jason Merchey quotes July 16th, 2017

It is only with a bit of embarrassment that I admit, if I want things I have said – essentially, quotations by Jason Merchey – I have to place them on the web per se. That is, I have assembled a 30,000 quote search engine, but it is a “plug-in” to Values of the Wise’s actual website. It is kind of like having a shoebox full of silver; if someone searches your house but assumes that the contents of the box is shoes, they won’t notice the silver. So it is with plug-ins and websites. Thus, I have to go ahead and put all my quotes into the body of a blog. Sorry if this seems gauche. I guess it’s not any worse than entering oneself into Who’s Who? or placing a Wikipedia article on the web. Well, at any rate, here you have it: Jason Merchey quotes! Enjoy.

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A Life of Value: 101 Good Ideas

Living a Life of Value June 18th, 2017

A life of value is a way of looking at oneself and the world that strikes a balance between doing what feels right/what fulfills you and what will benefit others in the world (and the world itself). A life of value is not about being a monk or miser or saint. It is fairer to say that a life of value is what one lives when one feels good, and also does good. It can indeed be a bit unclear just what this concept is, so here is a list of 101 things you can do, starting now, to improve your life. Ideally these simple ideas inspire and challenge. I have divided them up into two categories: more “self-oriented” things (e.g., listening to music or traveling) and more “helpful” things (e.g., write your Congressperson or vote with your dollars).

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